I Got Over My Breakup Using Sad Songs About Love

I had to experience that awful pain of breaking up as everyone has listening to sad songs about love. When I experienced the pain myself,however,it felt like I was the only one in the world experiencing it. I my case, my ex was the one who broke the relationship off but even if it wasn't it still hurts on either side.

Sometimes she broke up for a good reason and sometimes she didn't. When it really hurt was the times she would just spring the breakup on me and just explosively walk out! I used these times to ease the pain listening to sad songs about love.

The worst trap of all is to start to write a “victim story” that makes you the protagonist in a tale of love gone bad. First of all, you should realize that if you don’t get over your ex, it will be toxic to any future relationship you might have. Second, realize that you can’t run away from it, medicate it, or suppress it. You have to face the pain head on and deal with it.

There’s no way out of a broken heart. There’s only a way through. Accept that there is going to be pain. Use the time during this period to understand the hurt. Some ways to do this are to write in a journal, get counseling, or pour your heart out in song. Realize there are no quick solutions to getting over break up.

Next, you need to examine whether there is anything in your past that would have lead to this break up. For instance, did the abuse in your childhood cause you to be an abuser in this relationship? Take note of those things because they will help you foster healthier relationships in the future.

Don’t paint yourself as the victim of the relationship either. Take responsibility for your actions. While your ex may have been the one whose “fault” was the immediate cause of the break up, the truth is that the underlying circumstances were caused by both of you.

By getting rid of your “victim story” you become a healthier, more attractive partner for a future boyfriend or girlfriend. You’ll begin to see that your “victim story” was composed of beliefs, attitudes and thoughts that color your perceptions about everything. It becomes a self fulfilling prophesy.

When you handle your broken heart badly, you perpetuate your pain. You’ll never go about getting over break up. But, when you can handle your emotions with the ultimate goal of letting them go, you enable healing. Getting over a broken heart takes work. It also takes time. Don’t underestimate the factors which go into curing your heartbreak.

You’ve just lost a person who was extremely important to your life. But, use this time for growth and you will become a stronger person and have better relationships in the future. That is how you really go about getting over break up.

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